The entire 8th chapter of Bava Basra is dedicated to the of inheritance. The gemara learns from pesukim in the Torah that inheritance goes to sons, to care their unmarried sisters and mother. However in the Torah portion of Pinchas the daughters of Tzelophchod came to Moshe and requested their father’s inheritance he didn’t have any sons. Moshe asked Hashem what to do and Hashem said they inherit the land they into their father’s tribe of Menashe.
At the end of this week’s double Torah portion of Mattos and Massei, which is the conclusion of the Book of Bamidbar, it discusses how they followed through with Hashem’s command, “As Hashem commanded Moshe, so did the daughters of Tzelophchod do. Machla, Tirtza, Chagla, Milca, and Noa, the daughters of Tzelophchod, became wives to sons of their uncles. To cousins from the families of the children of Menashe, son of Yosef, did they become wives, and their inheritance remained with the tribe of the family of their father” (Bamidbar 36:10-12).
The Ralbag learns a very practical lesson about compromise and how to deal with exceptions to the rule “When there is a need to take away something from someone who was entitled to it and give it to someone else, one should do it in a fashion that anything that can be done in the most honest way, should still be done in a way where you can give back the loss, so that it won’t be taken away forever, but in a fashion that there is no damage to the person who is currently getting it. For example, because they would have to take away the inheritance of Tzelophchod which was included in his father, Chefer’s portion, they did it in a way where they would not lose the portion of inheritance forever, while being sure not to hurt the daughters of Tzelophchod, by marrying them off to the sons of their uncles. Behold the Torah wanted to have them married to their cousins, since that won’t hurt them at all.” (Click here for Hebrew text.)
The Ralbag is teaching us that there are valid times when there must be exceptions to the rule, compromises must be made in order to ensure all sides are as minimally hurt as possible. Either just temporary results which are different from the norm, or minimal change th
en what could have resulted. However, the question is where to draw that balance of compromise?
For example, one can ask why it right to limit the daughters of Tzelophchod to only be allowed to marry their cousins? Why they have the choice to marry whomever they want? What wrong with the right to choose, opportunity, the chance to be and do whatever one feels like doing? Why should they be limited and controlled? Why is that fair
, isn’t a lack of autonomy damaging them? Didn’t the Ralbag say that compromises could be made but not at the expense of hurting the daughters of Tzelophchod?
We see from here that a lack of entitlements, being limited in choices isn’t considered damaging. One cannot always expect and demand the right to have all possibilities on the table because the consequences of that could affect other partiesherefore, it
‘s granted that one might be limited in choice when they are trying to get something when it’s at the expense of someone elsene has to be ready to live with compromise and not feel slighted when being limited when trying to achieve there are many factors and other people that have to be taken into account.
In order for the daughters of Tzelophchod to gain a portion of land in Israel that to their father was right the expense of We see from here that a lack of entitlement and opportunity isn’t considered a damage.
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(It’s important to note that the daughters getting inheritance when there are no sons was destined to be part of the laws of inheritance, but Hashem orchestrated that this specific area of the law will be revealed at this point out of the merit of the righteous daughters of Tzelophchod.)